Tag: interpersonal
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“If I don’t become a spy, I’m probably just going to stop.” There are not many people who could utter a line like that and have it make perfect sense in the moment. My friend K is one of those people. What K was getting at was the idea that eventually you have to stop…
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Although unintentional, I have a string of non-consecutive posts going in which I mention cake. I don’t know what’s up with that. I can’t even eat cake. But the baked good shoutouts shall continue unabated. Specifically, I’m thinking about MacArthur Park and the fine art of being rejected. I write about rejection a fair bit…
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Psst…and everyone else is scared of them, too. That you’re unlovable That you’ll never be happy or don’t even have the capacity to be so That people are nice to you out of pity or duty, but not genuine affection That if you really shared what you thought and how you felt, you’d be shunned…
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“We’re different kinds of writers.” This followed shortly after,” I know you like writing and all that journalism stuff.” No, I like pad thai and Christopher Guest movies. I am a writer. And you are unable to distinguish between common homophones. Journalism is how I put myself through school. People actually pay me for my words.…
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You could handle it right now. Maybe not with all of the élan that you imagine under ideal circumstances. Maybe it wouldn’t be noble or romantic or self-sacrificing and maybe you’d lose sleep and bite your nails and drink too much and yell about the terrible timing, but you’d cope. You’d do it. You’d accommodate,…
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I get unreasonably annoyed when I see someone “undeserving” enjoying success. It’s a petty impulse and shaped in large part by my desire to believe the world is meritocratic (it isn’t), but there you go. Talent, determination and ruthlessness you can’t really argue with, but the fact that Jersey Shore’s The Situation is set to…
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Last night, as I was standing at the Starbucks counter waiting for my extra-hot soy chai to be served, I noticed a stack of business cards by the register. Or rather, I noticed the name on the cards. It was the same name as that of a very helpful bureaucrat (ordinarily an oxymoron, but not…
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Testing out a new feature. I will ask open-ended questions and you will come up with your own answers. We will sip tea and look thoughtful. I will wear the glasses. Let me know what you think. Photo by Shandi-lee Which is preferable: Wanting what’s best for someone or wanting them to be happy? I…
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So, I was discussing a piece I glanced over for a friend last night and I realized that the point she was making in her analysis was exactly what I was grappling with in terms of my own writing/social media presence/artfully constructed persona – where does performance end and unintended self revelation begin and just…
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New York Magazine runs a regular feature on the food diary of a celebrity/public figure/whoever they can round up. Last week’s happened to be Mika Brzezinski, co-host of Morning Joe. I can’t remember where I stumbled upon a link to the rundown of her recent eating habits, but after reading it, I felt compelled to…
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