Category: Relationships
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This week, I went through some old messages on a forum I used to frequent with the intent of scrapping them before the site itself closed up shop. But I couldn’t do it. Couldn’t hit delete and wipe ’em out permanently. There’s something to be said for a paper trail, ya know? Heck, I still…
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Maybe it’s because family has been on my mind this week. Or maybe it’s because my mother just celebrated a birthday a couple of days ago and my father will celebrate one in less than a month. Or maybe it’s because I’ve been reading about other people’s less than idyllic upbringings and feeling pretty flippin’…
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Last night, as I was standing at the Starbucks counter waiting for my extra-hot soy chai to be served, I noticed a stack of business cards by the register. Or rather, I noticed the name on the cards. It was the same name as that of a very helpful bureaucrat (ordinarily an oxymoron, but not…
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So, I was discussing a piece I glanced over for a friend last night and I realized that the point she was making in her analysis was exactly what I was grappling with in terms of my own writing/social media presence/artfully constructed persona – where does performance end and unintended self revelation begin and just…
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I’m sick of passion and exhortations to discover it, embrace it, follow it, stay true to it, etc. Maybe it’s because I’ve been watching a lot of Top Chef lately (pairs well with rebounding from food poisoning) and have heard contestant after contestant blather about being passionate about food, or maybe it’s because the internet…
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A former coworker once forced me to read The Secret. Believe it or not, I am occasionally reluctant to hurt people’s feelings, so when she came into my office singing the book’s praises, I tried to listen with an open mind. She told me how she had declared her intention to meet a man a…
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Imagine 25 people (strangers, even) all staring at you while they throw out words and terms to describe their perceptions of you and then more words and terms for areas you need to work on. And you just have to sit there and absorb it. That was my Sunday. It was challenging. Not because I…
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There is a scene in the remake of Grey Gardens where Big Edie refers to Little Edie (her daughter) as an “acquired taste.” It’s meant to be contemptuous and passive-aggressively manipulative and controlling (the hallmark of their dysfunctional relationship), but it gets at the heart of the fear that so many of us secretly harbor…
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Hate To Break It To You is a recurring feature wherein we dispense succinct home truths that everyone could benefit from facing up to, unpleasant as they may be. The rest of the world aren’t mind readers. We frequently take it for granted that people can figure out when we’re happy or disappointed or absolutely…
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In a recent post, I offered the advice that you should simply block out those folks whose personalities/quirks/accomplishments/circumstances either cause you to take great umbrage at the inequity of how the universe divides its spoils or inspire gnawing envy in you. Photo by larry&flo I recently did just that. I stopped keeping tabs on a…
Generation Meh 