Category: Advice
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A Dream Deferred What happens to a dream deferred? Does it dry up like a raisin in the sun? Or fester like a sore– And then run? Does it stink like rotten meat? Or crust and sugar over– like a syrupy sweet? Maybe it just sags like a heavy load. Or does it explode? -Langston…
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Owing to a number of factors (promising a bunch of folks I’d make them one, fighting insomnia by thinking of wacky playlists, this piece from a True/Slant colleague), mix tapes (henceforth referred to as mix cds because we are in the 21st century) have been on my mind lately. The selection and arranging of just…
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Hate To Break It To You is a recurring feature wherein we dispense succinct home truths that everyone could benefit from facing up to, unpleasant as they may be. Just because something or someone looks good on paper doesn’t mean it works off the page. CVs, self help books, OkCupid profiles, Facebook status updates; if…
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Hate To Break It To You is a recurring feature wherein we dispense succinct home truths that everyone could benefit from facing up to, unpleasant as they may be. “Karma is not currency. You can’t pay your rent with unicorns and goodwill.” -Moi, in conversation with a friend Wanting to do positive, meaningful work and…
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I write a lot about going after what it is you want, not hamstringing yourself with insecurity, doubt or manufactured worst case scenarios. But what if you don’t have a sweet clue about what it is you want? What exactly are you supposed to do then? Photo by Robert Scarth Let’s start at the very…
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A few months ago, a younger friend asked me what growing up was like, what it felt like to be an adult. I can’t remember exactly what I said, but no doubt it was something facetious and possibly flippant (and most likely I was hanging out in my pajamas when I read her email –…
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Here on GenMeh, I like to mix pragmatism in with the pep talks, so assuming that you’re theoretically on board with the just because message in my previous post, how do you move from nodding along to actually going out and, ya know, doing stuff? Photo by ontilnow The trick to countering cowardice/natural reticence/an overabundance…
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I promised that I’d offer a rough and ready guide to Project Guinea Pig, in which you acknowledge that you can’t predict the future, stop trying to and start diving down interesting rabbit holes as you encounter them, without thinking about how these life tangents will affect A) your personal “brand” B) your five-year plan…
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Melissa Melanson and I have known each other for years. A few months ago, I suggested she write a guest post for GenMeh. Circumstances have changed since then and that topic is rather dated, but when she pitched me on the idea of providing relationship guidance from her former legal perspective (and just in time…
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Today, kids, we’re going to talk about being unemployed. You’ve all heard the conventional wisdom about the need to get dressed every day, not sleep in until noon and to apply to positions as if it were your job (which it kinda is). And while I’m not going to dispute the idea that watching Judge…
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